Hi I’m Rae … I have a confession. I’m not perfect and neither is my life. And even though this seems rather obvious to me, it’s a misconception that many seem to have about Life Coaches.
It has taken me a long time, a lot of soul searching, a ton of work and made a fair few mistakes to get this far. In fact, as I am writing this, it’s 8pm and I’ve been at the computer since 8am. Though I did manage to get my hair done today … bonus! (jokes)
Being a Coach requires a great deal of personal input – my own personal/business planning and development, updating social media, writing blogs, answering emails, working with my clients and working on programs for my clients. Often family and social life takes a back seat while I am preparing to be the best Coach I can be and make a positive difference in this world.
I am a Diploma Qualified Life Coach & Certified Women’s Creatrix® Transformologist® who has been cleared of all my crap first before trying to help you clear yours. I believe this is VERY important and often overlooked.
Being a Coach/Mentor/Leader requires me to dig pretty deep sometimes. Needing to be honest about my struggle (the period of time spent between whining and winning) while encouraging others to do the same. If only more people could realise that there is little wisdom at either end of that spectrum … it’s the getting there that matters most. There is incredible value in the journey between. Drugs, alcohol, keeping busy and sweeping things under the carpet are band aid solutions. They only work for a short time and they only serve to make problems worse. But it you take the time to examine your past and learn the lessons it has to offer, find the solution you need to help you overcome, heal and move on for good … you will never look back.
Talking about the mistakes I have made along the way, and watching the gates of effort open is an honor and a privilege. Leadership is servitude: a double-edged sword that is sometimes frustrating, requiring you to identify your own weaknesses before you can inspire another. It is always thought provoking and challenging, sometimes emotional and draining … which all disappears when I see the light come on in someone’s eyes after a breakthrough has been made. It then becomes a gift to me that no amount of money earned can replace. I wouldn’t want to do anything else.
Leadership lacks ego, which is instead replaced with an intense responsibility and allegiance to people. Instead of people pleasing (like I once did) … always giving and receiving very little to re-fill my tanks. I now dare to bare my soul and offer the world something that is different, real, exciting, inspiring and powerful. No more weak at the knees, half-hearted effort … my Coaching is natural, authentic and comes straight from the heart. Yet to get there, I have had to endure many sleepless nights, cold sweats, trust issues, self-belief struggles, miscalculations, repeated dealing with my past, rejections, haunting failures, and the viral idea that I can always do better … until I found the answer that has made the biggest difference to my life so far.
Self-development and improvement is ever present for me. There are always going to be ups and downs … that’s life. There are a lot of people who I can help, and there are those who help me too.
Then there’s the nagging question of whether you have what it takes – and the ethical question of what gives you the right to lead when you actually have no idea what’s next. In fact, I would venture to say they are part of the human experience … no one knows what’s next. But I know what can help you cope better when challenges do come your way.
I’ve slowly learnt that great leadership isn’t measured by any of those fears. It’s not about being right the first time, or 100% of the time. It’s not about proving anyone wrong. It’s not about fame. It’s not about fortune. It’s about being real, kind and passionate, excited and sometimes scared. And it’s about the self-satisfaction I get that comes with helping other people succeed at life.
We see, today, too many self-proclaimed “leaders” who say they have all the answers, and that is simply never true; they only prey upon your fear of uncertainty. There are no steps … there is only faith and self-belief. Leadership means showing up and facing the uncertainty with honesty and integrity. Every day. For the sake of others and for the sake of your own vision. You show up with conviction, you make it very clear that this is your best plan, you discuss, and you execute. And if that plan fails, you try again. And somehow, if you have the confidence to try despite the little clouds of doubt. People who are drawn to your vibe are willing to give you a chance, and they’re willing to stand with you because you actually admit to being human and not having all the answers. You are not godlike and intimidating – you have been where they are now and they see themselves in you. They see the how far you’ve come and the chances you have taken. They are inspired and they want to get there too.
Taking a trip into the unknown is scary, and yet, it is in those moments of uncertainty where I have found the most growth and comfort in people who are empowered by transparency, not wowed by a false bravado. These are the people who will make the ups more exhilarating and the downs less devastating. These are the people who will succeed because they are trying something rather than doing nothing.
I used to pinpoint success on words like “strategy”, “wealth” , “popularity” and “charisma” and a lot of other self-congratulatory shallow crap to impress others, but the problem was – it wasn’t authentically me. So when those words failed, I was left to call myself out on my own bullshit … which I was more than happy to shed.
I am and grateful to be surrounded by people who embrace my truth. People who are willing to give life a red hot shot. I so admire them. They put their faith in me so I can help them be all that they can be and make their dreams come true. And that, my friends, is what life is all about for me … making a life by what I give.
Dealing with the heavy stuff is not for the faint hearted. Helping women overcome, sometimes utterly devastating circumstances, is often very challenging, but the reward I get from helping them find joy and their reason for being is my ultimate dream. It makes sense of my past and the journey I have taken to get where I am now.
I consider myself blessed. If I didn’t find the courage to look back and examine my life with clearer vision and perspective, I never would have discovered my purpose. I would be still be stuck in the same holding pattern, living a life I wasn’t satisfied with and doing no one (least not myself) any good.
I am grateful for the opportunity to serve you.
“Backgrounds and circumstances may affect who we are. But we are responsible for who we become”
My Programs and retreats are designed for women who are seeking greater things in life. More self love and acceptance, more control of their lives, more connection, more understanding, more joy, success and abundance.
Women who have the courage to step forward and own their stories. Driven by passion and determined to end past patterns and cycles of abuse. To find more love – for themselves and each other.
They are longing to commit to serving a higher purpose for their lives, while still being supportive, inspiring and encouraging to others.
Many people spend years stuck in the same situation, wasting away their life, unsure, unheard and unseen. The cost to them personally, emotionally and financially is substantial. The results that they get by going through my breakthrough programs and applying the lessons – are permanently life changing.
There are two main requirements for success in my programs.
1. You have to want and be willing to make changes.
2. You have to be prepared to invest in yourself.
Both are key to your success.
Do you feel stuck and unhappy with your life? Are you unsure what it is that is holding you back? Book a Blockage Identifier Call with me and we’ll work through your issues together to find the best solution for you to move forward.
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